One Attractive Ass Couple

I have a few favorite celebrity couples. Couples that I know I can look at and just squeal in awe because I just love looking at them. Carmelo and Lala. Swizz Beatz and Alicia Keys. Barack and Michelle.  Sometimes even Jay and Bey. Looking at pictures of those couples as I went through Tumblr, I thought “What the hell makes them so damn appealing?” So I went to the streets of media land and asked the general question: What makes a couple appealing? Here is a list of the qualities I was told:

- quietly affectionate

- constantly attentive

- interesting to be around

- respect for one another

- unique quality or quirk

- subtle touching or point of contact (no gross all over each other PDA)

- well dressed/complementary style

- laughing together

- can be in a group without being attached at the hip

I gotta be honest, I was expecting way more superficial answers. The most superficial I got was “a well dressed and dapper couple” and let’s be honest, we can all appreciate that one. But the underlying thread I saw in all these answers was genuine emotion (be it like or love) and confidence. Yes, confidence. Let me explain.

All of these responses say something about how confident the couple is in their relationship. These are characteristics of healthy secure relationships. When you can walk down the street without making out with each other constantly and you can be around friends without being attached at the hip, but still look like you’re totally and completely in love and committed to that relationship, you’ve reached a level of confidence and security that can’t be broken over stupidity.  The couples I listed earlier go through a slew of rumors about break ups and affairs and secrets all the time. They’re high profile couples, and they may not be with one another all the time. So hearing those rumors may have them anxious at times, but when they link back up they're still in love, happy and secure. That’s the key to an attractive, appealing couple. 

Now what I find attractive and appealing about a couple is usually exuded through the female. No not her physical attractiveness. But her ability to support her man while still having a life, mind and career of her own that may or may not involve him.  I like it even more when a couple can collaborate on a project and make something that would have been big, even bigger. The ride or die chick is the key to the attractive couple to me. Lala has her acting career and a son to raise but we will still catch her front row at a Knicks game or dressed for an NBA gala. Alicia can be in the studio laying tracks in LA while Swizz is promoting sneakers in NY but they can also get together and produce a hit song and take their baby on vacation. Mrs. Obama will travel to another continent to empower young girls while her husband holds down the USA and when she comes back she’ll throw on a ball gown for a fancy dinner or get her dance on with Barack at the front row of an Olympics trial game. And Beyonce will travel the world screaming “Who Runs the World”, while her man is signing artist and making deals, take a year off to birth a baby, jump right back up for a 4 night only concert and then take a family vacation and maybe sing a hook or two on his next album. All of the men in those relationships have complex lives and deal with complex things, and the women in their lives still hold them down   in times of trouble. 

And then there’s me. Because the female factor is so important to me in terms of an attractive couple, I try to exude all of those characteristics in my own relationship. I'm still learning how to balance both my life and his, but I'm doing a pretty good job. I’m in NY blogging my heart out while he’s in Cali teaching high schoolers and exploring the medical field and at the end of the day we can sit and Skype. He’ll explain various stitch techniques and I’ll pick his brain about a blog topic and when he graduates, I’ll be screaming the strongest and loudest when his name is called while wearing his favorite color.

Constant Love & Support + Confidence & Security = 

One Attractive Ass Couple